Sometimes the effects of alcohol dependence on children and young people is called hidden harm. People may not talk about what is happening, perhaps because they feel ashamed or that they are somehow to blame. The family may seem to be OK from the outside. The problems and the emotional impacts may not be recognised and children may not get the help and support they need.
The effect of harmful drinking on children
Children living with a dependent or problem drinker can suffer in many ways from the disruption to family life and relationships that can result from the drinking:
- Emotional problems, worries and feelings of hurt or shame
- A lack of rules and routine
- A lack of basic care, like clean clothes, good food and healthcare
- Taking on adult responsibilities
- Living with unpredictability and chaos
- Broken promises and unreliability
- Health problems linked to emotional issues, neglect or abuse
When I was about 9 I had to do all the cooking and get my sister ready for school
Children may not have the words to express how they feel. You may assume they are OK because they are not complaining, but it's worth keeping a close eye on your children if alcohol is a problem in your family to spot any warning signs that they are struggling.
It’s important to know that children can live in very difficult situations without developing significant problems.
How children might feel
Effects on family life
Signs your child may not be coping
Support services for families
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