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Asking for help

Dealing with harmful drinking in the home is a huge task. There are all kinds of emotional and practical problems to deal with.

Sometimes people suffer in silence, and try to manage on their own.

Reasons why people may be reluctant to ask for help

“No-one can help me.”

“They’ve their own worries – I’m not going to burden them with my problems.”

“People will think I’m weak and can’t cope.”

“It’s my fault it’s got this bad, it’s my job to sort it out.”

“They might take my children off me.”

“I should be able to handle this.”

“I don’t want people to find out what things are really like.”

If you are reluctant to ask for help, it’s worth remembering:

  • Alcohol dependence is a common problem in Ireland - Lots of people understand what you are going through.
  • Many health, education and social care professionals have training in alcohol problems, even if it’s not part of their main job. They will know where to get help.
  • There are alcohol support services especially for family members and other people affected by someone else’s drinking.
  • There are lots of different types of help available – practical help, parenting support, help with your mood and mental health, help for alcohol issues, help with managing your finances. Try and work out what kind of help you need and think where you might be able to get it. If you’re not sure, you could call the HSE Drugs and Alcohol Helpline on Freephone 1800 459 459, Citizen’s Information on 0761 07 4000, or ask your GP.

Getting the right help could mean positive changes happen for you and your family

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