More tips for coping with problem drinking
Get support for yourself
Ask your loved ones for help or find out about professional services and support groups. See more about asking for help.
Understand more about alcohol dependence and recovery
For some people, understanding can help them to feel more in control. Read about alcohol dependence here.
Don’t expect too much from yourself
Sometimes all we can do is survive. Take one day at a time and don’t be too hard on yourself. Focus your energies onto making some small changes to improve things for you and your family. Read some tips on making small changes.
Believe that you can survive and things can change
When the situation feels overwhelming, it can be very hard to imagine a different life, but change is possible, for you and for the person drinking. Many people have come through very difficult situations.
Don’t be afraid to meet new people or try new things. It can help you to feel less isolated and give you a break from the situation.
Try to enjoy yourself
Take time to do things you enjoy and have positive time with friends and other family members.
Believe in yourself and your good qualities
Living with an alcohol problem can chip away at your self-esteem and make you feel worthless or guilty. You are entitled to be valued and respected.
Exercise can help if you’re feeling depressed or anxious. Exercising with a group or friends can give you extra support.
Do what you need to do keep yourself and others safe from harm
If there violence or abuse, or a threat of these, get help. You can call the Gardaí if you feel at risk, or get advice from a specialised service like Tusla (child protection) or Women’s Aid (domestic violence). It may also help to learn about alcohol poisoning and to have a plan for emergencies.
Family Support Handbook: Helpful information for families affected by someone's alcohol or drug use, including understanding dependence, ways to cope and practical advice.
Parenting positively. Helping teenagers to cope with a parent’s problem drug or alcohol use: Guide for parents of teenagers who are affected by a parent's drug or alcohol abuse, from Tusla / Barnardos
Taking the Lid Off: Resource for families living with addiction and problematic substance use, including understanding of addiction and its effects on others and advice on what helps, based on the evidence.