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Prepare for teen pressure


“But muuuuuuum!!!”

“I hate you!”

“It’s so unfair!”

Faced with a determined teen, it can be easy to back down. Have your answers ready – Being prepared can help you to stay strong.

“Everyone else is allowed to go.”

“I know you don’t want to feel the odd one out, but it’s my job to do what I think is best. I’m not happy about you being there with no adults when people are going to be drinking.”

“You don’t need to worry. I can look after myself, I’m not stupid.”

“I know you’re not stupid. That’s why I’m allowing you to go. But if you want that freedom, I have to be able to depend on you to stay in contact with me so I know where you are.”

“Everyone else will be bringing a few cans. It’s not going to hurt me.”

“I know you feel left out, but you can still have a good time without drinking. I’m not going to give you alcohol while you are underage.”

“You don’t understand. It’s just a bit of fun.”

“I do understand why you want to drink. And I know it can be fun. But you don’t know what will happen if you get out of control. Kids get hurt and injured every day and do things they regret when they’re drunk. I care about you and I’m not going to put you in that position.”

“You drink. Why are you trying to stop me?”

“You can drink when you’re older. But your brain is still developing, and alcohol messes with that. And it’s unhealthy to start drinking young. I want you to wait as long as possible.”

“I hate you!”

“I know. It would be easier for me to give in. But I care about you and I’m going to do what I think is best for you. Even if it makes you unhappy right now.”

Setting rules is the difficult choice. You may be tempted to let things go and avoid an argument.

But once your child knows you mean business, there should be less resistance. 

Even if they protest or get angry, deep down no child is unhappy to know that their parents care enough to try to protect them.

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