How can I ask for help?
It can be very hard to start a conversation about your parent or another adult’s drinking. It takes a lot of courage to say the words, especially if you have been keeping it a secret. But if you take the plunge, it can be a big relief to ask for help and know that other people are there to listen and support you.
Here are some things you could say:
- Can I talk to you about something? I’m worried about my dad. He’s drinking a lot and I’m not sure what to do.
- I’m a bit nervous talking about this, but things are bad at home and I need to talk to someone.
- Could we have a chat some time? I’m upset because my mum is drinking and I think she has a problem.
- Could I stay here for a little while? I feel bad saying this, but my dad has been drinking and I don’t want to go home.
- I’m not very happy today. My mum drinks too much and it gets to me sometimes.
- Could you help me please? I need to talk to someone about my dad’s drinking but I’m not sure what to do or who to call.
If you find it hard talking face to face, write a text message or email to a support service or to someone you trust that says how you feel. When you feel brave, press ‘send’.
If you have told a friend about what is happening, you could ask them to ask their parents to help you.
Are you worried about asking for help? Get some advice.
Read more about some of the different people you can talk to.